The Hysterofilo, A Prince Charming, Not So Prince, Not So Blue

The hysterophile portrays that person, generally a man, who is deeply attracted to hysterical women. Among many other traits, these women have two that seduce these men. The first is her attractiveness, her seductive appearance. The second is an insecure and vulnerable personality. Under these external features there is a whole psychological structure.

The main characteristic of the hysteróphile is his chivalric treatment and his considerate attitude towards the hysterics who “seduce him”. It is elegant and embodies a very defined masculine posture. It is real that he is deeply impressed by passive and weak women. They are the type of girls who allow you to “enhance your masculinity.”

The hysterophile is generally a seemingly confident and confident man who radiates a certain halo of power. In principle, it does not show weaknesses or cracks. In fact, it is very common for them to flaunt their professional success or love conquests. This is a way of reaffirming your worth and seeking recognition by women.

The beginnings of a couple between a hysteric and a hysteric

The hysterical and hysterical complement each other neurotically. He wants to be a support for his weakness and she wants him to be. She feels like a princess who needs to be rescued. He wants to embody that knight errant who saves her. Well, at least that’s what happens in the beginning. Over time, they will form a changing, unstable, and definitely insane union.

Sooner rather than later, the symptoms of a conflict that is latent in this type of union appear. The hysterophile’s mask falls off relatively quickly. It is not that he intended to deceive, or that he deliberately adopted this imposture. Indeed, he has believed and has tried to be his lady’s knight-errant.

However, the security that it seems to boast breaks with some speed. Self-doubts appear. The insecurities. You no longer want to be the strong part of the relationship. He begins to feel that he is fragile and needs the protection of the hysteric. It is an urgent need, to which you urgently need to respond.

The hysteric’s response

The hysterical wants, yes or yes, a prince charming. She has not seduced a man into showing signs of weakness and giving up his role of protecting and caring for her. Therefore, when the hysterile begins to break, she does not accept it. He loses admiration for that faded prince charming, for that errant knight who now appears to him as someone who cannot bear the weight of his own armor.

The hysteric soon goes from a lack of admiration for the hysterical to outright contempt. The man begins to feel ashamed for not being able to embody the ideal of his woman. It does not seem legitimate to be fragile, while demanding protection. The situation turns tough and, in one way or another, they both feel frustrated and suffer.

What follows is the most unpresentable. The hysteric is cooking a deaf hatred. You feel cheated. You feel ripped off. He wants to reactivate that face that at first he seemed to see in his partner  and for this he can choose a cruel and sickly path. He begins to ridicule his partner publicly, exposing his weaknesses. It is a way of claiming “justice” for her. The hysterophile, meanwhile, learns to assume the role of the “martyr.”

Fantasies and realities

These types of neurotic relationships never have a good ending. The usual thing is that they end up invaded by abuse, from side to side. The hysterophile’s fantasy is to be the ideal man for a woman. He really wants to be, but he cannot because he is a human being traversed by imperfection, dissatisfaction and need.

For her part, the hysterical woman wants to find the ideal man. The hysterophile, at first, embodies it. However, when she discovers that he is ultimately not a prince charming, conflict ensues. She is not willing to admit that she has made a couple with an imperfect man, that he can also be fragile and that only the fantasies that they built between the two of them are ideal.

The usual thing is that where there were ideals and fantasies, abuse ends up being installed. It is almost always mutual. As mutual is the alternation in the role of victims and perpetrators. Both feel disappointed and both claim that the other is the source of their suffering. Such are neurotic relationships.