Relationships Are The Mirror In Which We See Ourselves
The world of human relationships inevitably interests us and affects us, we cannot remain indifferent to this fact. We are learning to discover who we are through the eyes of others, and each person we meet during the course of our lives can bring us something different.
Are you open to the possibility that anyone can bring you something important in your life? Depending on our openness, this will be more or less true, the important thing is to recognize that each person has this potential in our lives, just as we do in the lives of others. Being attentive to this possibility and taking advantage of it depends on each one.
Relationships as a learning opportunity
Every relationship we live in is potentially important. Any encounter we have can make us discover many things about ourselves. Whether in our relationships, with family, with our friends, sporadic relationships and work relationships. Any type of relationship can have an impact on us.
Every relationship becomes an opportunity to see how we react to each person ; how we communicate, what we feel, what causes us discomfort; what behaviors we like, which ones cause us rage and anger, etc.
When we focus on the other person regarding how we feel we are losing valuable perspective. It is not the other person who has generated this emotion in me, if not that I have been the one who has had this reaction to their behavior, which I can investigate and see where it comes from; as an opportunity to find out what this has to do with my life.
Reacting like this means being very aware that it is not the other person who causes anger, discomfort or sadness in me, nor the one who generates happiness, joy or enthusiasm. The entire repertoire of emotions, whether pleasant or unpleasant, we generate ourselves through the bond. They are responses that we emit regarding our experience and belief system.
The relationship as a mirror of myself
There are many feelings, desires, intentions that for certain reasons make us ashamed and reject outright. They are parts of us that we are not willing to see; and to defend ourselves against this we use projection. We project onto other people what we are not willing to see in ourselves.
We have emotional reactions that activate projection, and they can be both positive and negative. In the positive you are reflecting on the other person with a part that you like about yourself, that you value and appreciate and of which you are not aware.
In the negative ones you are reflecting something that you censor yourself, a part of yourself that you do not like, doing everything possible to recognize it, which is an internal conflict that interferes in relationships.
It is always interesting to recognize our projections because we see how our attitudes and impressions towards people and the world around us are essentially the rejected ideas that we harbor towards ourselves.
The relationships you have say a lot about you
Where we least expect to find, it turns out that anyone can provide us with great love, beautiful company, and important learnings. We become demanding waiting for this to come to us from the outside, however, it is an internal matter. Everything that is meaningful to our lives appears when we are in a position to accommodate it.
Integrity, integrity and stability cannot be offered to us by anyone, and it is not fair for us to burden others with that responsibility. All of this comes from within us, and is facilitated through the relationships we maintain.
